Women test men that they are in a relationship with, and they test men that they are attracted to when they are out in the dating world. These tests are wired into their biology to discover things about how mate-worthy you are. And since men tend to lie and fake status the most with the most desirable women, the more desirable (attractive, intelligent, high status, self confident) a woman is, the more she is going to test you.
That’s why you are going to love this month’s deep dive into how to pass any woman’s tests and flip the switches on her attraction and trust… without all of the frustration of the usual learning curve.
Once you understand when you are being tested, you’ll discover that your woman is your best indicator of how authentic and present you are being in your relationship, and your entire relationship will become more easeful, enjoyable, and loving.
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Just like no levy or dam is expected to support and guide EVERY flood of water from EVERY storm; no man should be expected to support and guide EVERY flood of challenge/drama from EVERY female-test. Men need to know how to pass women’s’ appropriate tests, just as much as women have to know how to present appropriate tests, at appropriate times, at appropriate amounts. Anything other than those is just them maliciously trying to see if they can break a man at his worst moments. That’s simply abusive, and those women can get sent packin’ just as fast as any abusive man can. Not “all is fair in love and war.”
Hey Perry, an important point I want to make sure that you (and the other men) get from this webinar is that “tests” from women are completely below their level of conscious behavior. They are run by biological programs and frequently women will kick themselves in the head wondering where it came from the next morning.
The idea of women knowing “how to present appropriate tests,” etc. is impossible by this definition and expecting women to hold that standard is pretty much expecting to either single or miserable in relationships. It just doesn’t work that way.
Once you become good at dealing with tests, you’ll find that it’s easy, she’ll be incredibly grateful (and attracted) to you afterwards, you’ll get fewer and fewer of them as her biology learns to trust you, and you might even find yourself enjoying them.
But, perhaps more to your point, if a woman is doing it “maliciously” then it’s not a test at all. It’s just a bitch being a bitch. And no good man with good self esteem needs to participate in that.
Unfortunately authentic tests DO have a tendency to arise when a man is at his worst moments. That is, after all, when she needs to know if you’re still trustable as a man.
I’m not at all interested in any woman who doesn’t know the difference of when to test me, and when to support me. Period.
It’s not like I need all 4 billion of them to change their subconscious behavior. It only requires one or few unconventional woman, or women, then so be it.
Hi Alex,
I am new to your arena but have been on the growing cycle for a long time now. After 7 years of living together, my fiancée and I split up last week at our final session of counselling. I was sure it was over and I had no hope of the relationship continuing and I told her to move out. She stated she would stay if things changed.
Right now she says she “needs space” to think about things and grow herself and suggests I do the same. I can’t help but think it’s all bullshit, the hoops men have to jump through to have a loyal woman. I know I need to grow and I will continue to do that.
However, would you say “space” is a test? Do I opt in on this “no contact” rule I’ve been reading about (not from your content) as to not indulge in the “needy” behavior.
I am a young man, I am going somewhere and I told her she should tag along. I’ve been the giver, the provider and the protector. I have yet to fail in my responsibilities and I work hard at them. However, I am astonished at the idea I am not the one in her eyes.