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Even at the regular price of $197, this program massively over-delivers, with 20+ training sessions recorded from a seminar that men spent over $1000 to attend live.
I've offered this program at half price before-- and honestly I grit my teeth, because that is way too cheap for this level of training. But my mentor and I made a decision that we'd rather keep the price accessible to the maximum number of men... even if it meant that we'd actually lose some money by not getting enough extra men to pay for the difference in the price drop-- We simply believe this training is so important.
Today I'm stepping it up and really testing that idea for my birthday. It is THIS PROGRAM, more than any other, that embodies my best work to improve the world... by filling it with more capable, powerful, and purposeful men that know exactly how to create their vision for their own lives and for their families and communities.
So I decided to go out a limb and I'm offering an outrageous discount on something that I know has the power to help you make the difference you want to make in both your SELF and in the world.
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How do you re-invent yourself when you are a young millionaire with a super-model girlfriend... and you still feel like your life is empty (hint: you get to keep the money and the girls)
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After nearly 10 years of working with thousands of men to overcome their darkest insecurities and achieve their brightest dreams for sexual confidence, intimacy, and love... Here is what I have learned:
Chances are, one (or even ALL) of these things strongly resonate with you too.So let’s look at some of the real reasons why you, me, and most men have felt a lack around these things…
The Tsunami Of Bullshit
Men are frustrated by the soul-drowning tsunami of bullshit that shouts at them everywhere you go, about what you need to DO in order to be a “real man,” get laid! make millions! have bigger muscles! a bigger dick! and "win" at life!…
I’ve studied marketing for quite a few years, and one of the central laws of making money selling stuff to people is to figure out what makes them insecure, and use that to get them to think they need your product…
Whether that’s a big SUV to make you feel macho and tough, a pimple cream to avoid being ugly, an expensive watch so that other people will think that you’re “successful”, or a book on how to pick up chicks so that you won’t be a lonely, sexless, loser, or yet another program on how to make millions of dollars online while sitting on your couch in your underwear...
With every click on the internet, every sponsor on television, every billboard when you’re driving or riding a bus… everywhere you go, you are being fed continuous bullshit about what kind of beer you need to drink in order to be sexy, accepted, popular, rich, or masculine.
In fact, I strongly recommend that while you read this letter, you continuously ask yourself if I’M FULL OF SHIT too… Is THIS letter also just one more piece of bullshit online trying to sell you on something you need in order to be masculine?
It’s true that I’m going to offer you something to buy at the end, and I have studied marketing, so if you’re smart, you’ll question whether you can trust what I’m saying too.
So it’s no wonder men are confused about...
The Difference Between Macho & Masculine
Figuring this out was a huge wakeup call for me because I knew that in order to get the things that I wanted: Respect, Love, Success, and Sex…
I had to be taken seriously as a MAN. I had to be “masculine”.
But what I thought was “masculine” was completely WRONG.
I thought “macho” was masculine. I thought superficial characteristics like being tough, fearless, handsome, strong, big, fierce… or even violent, scary enough that nobody would dare fuck with me, and of course... Have a HUGE cock…
I thought those things were what would make me a MAN in the eyes of others… and especially attractive, desirable women.
Now let me be super clear:
Most of those qualities are very positive. There’s nothing wrong (and a lot that’s right!) about being tough, fearless, handsome, strong, etc…
The problem was that I spent so much of my life trying to be those things (or at least fake those things) that I thought other people wanted me to be in order to be considered MASCULINE, that I completely missed THE TRUTH about what Manhood is.
In fact, none of those things have much to do with being a MAN…
And none of them having much to do with being sexually attractive to women.
But the “Tsunami Of Bullshit” that we live in, like fish live in water, had convinced me that I had to be all of those things in order to be accepted and respected as a man.
I’ll tell you the deep Truth about exactly what being a Man really is in just minute, but first…
Let’s talk about your father.
The Things You Didn’t Get From Your Father
Many men today grow up without a father or even a father-figure, role model, or mentor of masculinity.
But even if you had the “perfect” dad, the fact is, no man gets everything he needs from his biological father in order to grow up as a fully realized Man.
Our ancestors who survived the harshest conditions for thousands of years without the benefit of technology or civilization, and fathered sons who became men who fathered sons across generations of hardship, were raised by the entire tribe...
And the tribe had a huge stake in those boys becoming powerful, capable, and mate-worthy men, because the survival and future of the tribe depended on those boys and the brotherhood of MEN they would become as adults.
No man gets everything they need from their biological father.
This is important…
Here is a short list of the most critical and important things you NEED to get from the father-figures and mentors in your life to grow completely in your Manhood
Things Every Man “Needs”
(And Didn’t Get All Of From Our Fathers)
If you want some deep insights into your own life, success, attractiveness to the opposite sex, and feelings of completeness as a man, then carefully go through this list and see which of these things you got from your father, and which you still need to find for yourself...
If you took time to go through that list (or at least commit to coming back to it and seriously evaluate what you are still missing), you will find it to be an invaluable TOOL for understanding how to grow to your personal “next level” and step into your power as a Man in full.
One of the keys to becoming powerful, free, and respected is your ability to accurately and honestly look in the mirror and know the truth about yourself.
Our Culture Thinks Men Are A Joke...
Wow! it’s almost hard to believe the crap that they heap on men…
Our culture belittles men at every turn.
It is totally acceptable to make fun of, and to be degrading towards Men.
Everywhere you look, men are blamed for every problem in our society. On television, fathers are always portrayed as beer-addled buffoons who can’t find their own asses with both hands, and single men as half-retarded, scheming robots whose lives revolve around getting laid and lying.
Sure, it’s just comedy, and yet...
Is it any wonder that women constantly talk about men as “simple”, as idiots who need to be trained, as untrustable and sex-obsessed?
Outside of super-hero comic characters, men are viewed as broken, stupid, and incompetent as a gender. On television, and in popular media, men aren’t just the joke, they’re the punch-line.
And the idea of the REAL authentic, powerful, nurturing, emotionally mature, grounded, and honorable Man who is worthy of respect is considered a unicorn. A naive fairytale that a woman would have to be a child to believe in.
And so women become defensive, demanding, suspicious, and disloyal.
But make no mistake about this:
Women Are Starving For A Real Man
Most women can’t even admit how badly they want a real MAN for fear of humiliation and disappointment. Most just give up in despair.
But what is critical here, what YOU MUST KNOW:Women are deeply and earnestly on your side when it comes to showing up as your most powerful and masculine self.
Women want you to WIN this battle for yourself and for them. They want YOU to be the man who wipes away their suspicions and fears so that they can give their hearts completely.
For most men this is extremely counter-intuitive.
Most men have the experience of feeling, emotionally, that if they tried to stand up as Men, that women would laugh at them, reject them, and humiliate them, and then go screw some other guy.
(This is because of the tsunami of bullshit and the cultural joke about manhood)...
But nothing could be further from the truth.
When you begin to walk your path towards your full masculine freedom, you will be amazed to discover that the women in your life - from friends, to co-workers, to lovers, to that girl you just started dating - all of them will all be your biggest cheerleaders along the way.
Here’s another little secret: Men are starving for Real Men too.
Men are hungry for the brothers, fathers, and mentors to stand with, shoulder-to-shoulder, to take back their birthright of unassailable masculine freedom.
Other men won’t be jealous, they won’t reject you, they won’t say, “who the hell does he think he is?!”
Nope. When you show up as a man, other men will run to support you on your path.
In fact, the only one really standing in your way is you.
Being A Real Man vs Faking It
I spent most of my life “faking it”...
Trying to get by by puffing myself up and making people think that I had everything handled and under control...
Trying to seem impressive and manly in front of women…
Trying to seem courageous and tough in front of other men…Inside I was mostly confused and lonely. I felt like the whole world wanted me to be a certain way - strong, fearless, confident, muscular, smooth with the ladies...
Showing weakness would basically mean that I wasn’t a man-- and I knew that I had a lot of weakness and fear inside of me. I dreaded that I’d be rejected as a man if anyone ever found out.
I used to lose my temper if someone tried to talk to me about these well-hidden areas.
I thought if I could just get it right, if I could just act the way I was supposed to and make people think I was a certain way, that eventually I’d be happy…
Eventually I’d have the right woman, the right income from the right career, and the right life. I’d get the respect as a man that I thought would make me feel, finally, at ease with who I was.
All this effort, for years, to please my parents, my girlfriend, to be impressive, to succeed, to be more honest, more impeccable, to honor my desires, to be emotionally sensitive, to be strong, to man up, to suck it up, everything… all that effort… was a complete and total WASTE OF TIME.
In fact, all of that effort took me in exactly the wrong direction, made me more insecure, and drove me even farther from actually stepping into my power as a Man.
I Lived In Fear That Everyone Would Find Out
That I Wasn’t Who I Was Pretending To Be
Here’s how good I got at faking it:
I had gotten so heavily into martial arts, that I eventually became a certified instructor in Krav Maga, the Israeli military fighting system that is so macho that not only does it include “gun take-aways”, but even has techniques for dealing with a terrorist holding a live grenade and how to disarm an assailant with a sub-machine gun that is strapped to their shoulder. Real James Bond stuff.
I loved it, and it gained me the respect of other serious manly men, like cops, swat teams, and military units, who came to our training programs.
Then I landed a girlfriend who was bi-sexual and an absolute genius at seducing other women. And we started regularly having threesomes with girls who came home with us from bars and clubs around Los Angeles.
From the outside it looked like I had the most macho lifestyle imaginable.
And honestly I’m not going to say that I wasn’t having a lot of fun...
But it was all, 100% “veneer”. In fact, what I didn’t even dare to admit to myself was that I had built my entire identity as a man, and all of my “confidence” around the external “accomplishments” in my life.
And when I injured my hand and couldn’t fight for a few months and then the bisexual girlfriend left me, I crumbled like the big, fake shell of a man that I was.
Without external “proof” of my manliness, I instantly reverted to the depressed, shy, uncertain, anxiety-ridden faker that I had been carrying inside all along.
“Real Man” Means “Self Authentication”
Just so there’s no misunderstanding here… There is nothing wrong with all the positive qualities of manhood like strength, courage, decisiveness, leadership...
The problem is that you can never BECOME a man by running around trying to be those qualities for someone else… trying to be a certain way because you think that’s the way other people will accept you.
And that's the difference that actually makes the difference.
Eventually I found the mentors and teachers that helped me to scrape myself off of the floor and build myself up step-by-step as an authentic man, with authentic confidence.
What they taught me was that I had to figure out how to love myself enough to stop listening to my inner voice of doubt and instead to live my Truth.
The crazy thing is that before I figured all of this stuff out (with a lot of help!) I never imagined that it was possible for me to live as the Man I am today.
Trying to “be a real man” in order to please, prove something, impress, put down, or win over, anybody else always leads to shit. It doesn’t matter what you achieve, how much money you make, or how many “chicks you bang,” as long as you’re stuck in that mindset, true happiness, true love, and and true masculine ease are impossible.
What Is A “Real” Man?
Fake men seek approval and avoid criticism
Real men enjoy both criticism and approval with equanimity and curiosity
Fake men chase rainbows and waste their time trying to “get it right”
Real men know what is right by knowing what is True, and simply do it
Fake men compensate for their perceived inadequacies, annoying people, and driving away what they most want: love, respect and belonging
Real men have a deep knowing that they are adequate, whole, and complete; they attract high quality women and friends
Fake men have trouble fitting in and feel uncomfortable
Real men comfortably let the world fit in around themselves, have no trouble being alone, and have no trouble in social groups
Fake men lack confidence in themselves and their decisions
Real men make decisions confidently and accept all of the consequences
Fake men are out of touch with their real emotions and truth, they are experts in self-deception
Real men can handle and be truthful about all of their emotions, as well as the emotions of others
Fake men collapse when faced with a big challenge
Real men grow when faced with a big challenge
Fake men base their lives and actions on fear, seeking outer approval and success to “prove” themselves
Real men base their lives on deep truth and love
Fake men don’t know their deepest truth
Real men never forget their deepest truth
Fake men fade into the background in fear of being noticed, or puff themselves up for fear of being not noticed
Real men are powerfully present and take command when they can be of service
Fake men are distant, checked-out lovers
Real men are passionate, sensitive, commanding lovers
How To Become A Man:
Be Willing To Fight For Your Truth
My mentor, Nathan Charles, said:
“Becoming a real man is to master the process of self-authentication as it is lived in your own life.”
And if you’re like me (and pretty much every one of the hundreds of men I’ve coached and the thousands of men that I’ve surveyed and interacted with professionally), then because of cultural programming, you’ve spent most of your life practicing being fake.
And listen, this isn’t just my crazy theory here, this is a fundamentally accepted principle of cognitive psychology since Freud and Lacan first recognized that our personalities are formed, right from the start, to please others… starting with mommy, and continuing until right now with that hottie with the amazing ass that just walked into Starbucks and is standing there ordering her latte, while you watch and wonder if you should go over and introduce yourself.
And those years of practice at being fake slow us down, trip us up, and confuse us with layers of old crap.
And if that didn’t make it hard enough… everyone around us: our boss, our parents, other men -- everyone expects us to keep being fake, to keep up the act, because they’re all acting too.
Alone in your life, it is almost impossible to break free into your “real man” because it’s extremely hard as a human to swim against the current of who everyone else expects you to be.
Now to be clear: That’s nothing to whine about, it’s just a fact. And the first step to busting into the wheelhouse of your life and taking command of the bridge, is the willingness to deal with the Truth of your life.
If you’ve read this far, then we’re really getting somewhere, because it’s clear that you’ve got that fire in your belly to live a more authentic, powerful, and free life. On YOUR terms.
You Don’t Have To Settle!
You Can Break Free Into The Life That You KNOW In Your Quiet Moments Is Real, And Has Been Waiting For You
I have spent years in the trenches helping men overcome the cultural programming to settle, to break free of the trap of becoming either a plastic, people-pleasing zombie, or an emotionally numb, I-don’t-give-a-fuck asshole zombie...
To help men step into the fullness of their manhood, their masculine power, and their freedom.
And no, you don’t have dance naked with other men in the woods beating drums around a fire.
(Not that I’m putting those guys down-- many men find a deep brotherhood and a strong path to their manhood through that stuff, and I respect what they are up to).
For me, these truths come from decades of mentorship, practice, consideration and testing.
You can’t get your manhood “second hand,” you’ll have to DO THIS YOURSELF...
But you also don’t have to do it ALONE.
I have been uncommonly lucky to have had many incredible teachers and mentors in my life.
Nathan Charles, one of my best friends and a current mentor, also had amazing teachers in his life to get where he is today, including living in a “practice house” with David Deida (who initially gave him the nickname “Terrified” because of his fear of his own truth, his own desires, and that he’d be rejected for them).
Ultimately Nathan joined David’s teacher, (who has been called “Mykonos”), in the secretive Kalapaki Bay Boddhisatva Guild. (And good luck googling that one. Nothing from that time has ever been put into writing).
He went on to spend seven years leading men’s group, lead dozens of workshops, teach thousands of men, and spend countless hours reading, writing, discussing, meditating, practicing, testing and learning.
In other words, Nathan and I fought hard for this in our own lives. And you will too.
But we’re here to HELP so you don’t have to make all of the mistake and wrong turns that we made along the way. We can give you the map.
There Comes A Time In A Man’s Life When He Knows He’s Ready…
Several months ago, Nathan and I led a group of men who were ready through an intense weekend experience in Arizona to give them the insights, knowledge, tools, maps, and exercises to step into their freedom and Manhood.
We spent more than a year preparing the content and we had a strong sense of purpose in creating the best possible program for these men, but…
The results were even better than we imagined!
I came wanting to get permission and direction so that I could fully step into my manly life. I was too much of a wanderer without a strong foundation. I needed solidity and direction.I leaned that everything resided within me all along. Now I have the tools necessary to be myself fully in my interactions with life. There are many golden nuggets in this program that are life changing to me. I'm so grateful for it, and everyone involved! [...] I have a new found excitement for the direction I'm moving in life, and I commit to sticking with that direction and managing procrastination like we were taught to.
This stuff is AWESOME fun and soooo fucking cathartic.Even after just 3 considerations I feel like I'm wiping away layer after layer of bullshit. It just seems to work, effortlessly. Thank you so much for sharing this process Alex Allman and Nathan Charles!
I went through many layers of anger, then sadness, my realization was that I was mourning my childhood, my marriages, my life up to now, I was a raw exposed nerve feeling everything.This was something I wasn't used to, but I felt alive. More alive than I have felt in a long time. Oddly I cried more with joy than with sadness, then peace.
I'm already becoming the things I always thought I had to work to become simply by yielding my attention. I REALLY like who I'm becoming or rather, am allowing myself to be.Maybe this is because I'm acting intuitively rather than based on my social personality.Regardless, it's awesome but kinda scary.
And the great news is that we recorded the entire workshop, edited it down to the most powerful and fundamental parts that you need for your own journey, and added worksheets and exercises that will set you on your path to freedom and your full potential as a Man.
We call it How To Man.
We’d like you to join our brotherhood of men.
I’m smiling as a write this because I can feel you there reading and I know that exact place… that moment when you know you are at a crossroads in your life.
I can almost feel your doubts swimming to the surface:
How much will this cost me?
What if it doesn’t work?
How do I know this isn’t just one more bullshit thing that’s going to waste my time and disappoint me?
You are absolutely RIGHT to be thinking those things, and I would too!
And I’ll tell you something else: If this letter has inspired you to action… there is nothing wrong with taking this journey on your own and figuring it all out for yourself. Yes, it will take longer and you’ll make many wrong turns, but there’s nothing wrong with that, and it makes for a good “story of your life.” I support you in that decision.
The second option, of course, is to do nothing. You can go back to sleep and live the life you’ve been living so far, wake up, repeat, and take what you get. Most men do.
Obviously that’s not what I want for you, but in the end it’s none of my business. I’m hoping that’s not what you want for yourself either. I want to believe in the fire burning inside of you.
And that’s why I hope you take the third option and allow Nathan and I to help you, brother-to-brother.
We are all on this mountainside together climbing, and we’re throwing you a rope and an outstretched arm.
We’re inviting you to join an active brotherhood with the other men in the program so that we can mutually support each other and prop each other up on this climb.
We want more from you than a simple purchase.
We want your participation and your willingness to help the other men too.
Of course, we can’t control that part of it, all we can do is extend the invitation and hope that you’ll take the first step by joining the program.
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Let’s keep this super-simple: Not everything is for every man, and while we obviously believe that this program is an amazing opportunity and NONE of the men in the first group asked for a refund, that doesn’t mean that it’s right for you.
All I ask is that you give it (and yourself) a fair shake. Take 2 months to kick the tires, watch the videos, go through the exercises with an open mind, and of course, I highly encourage you to come post on the Facebook group and see what the other men are up to (you’ll be BLOWN AWAY), and see for yourself.
THE ONLY JUDGE IS YOU.
If you don’t like the program for ANY reason at all, just shoot support an email within 60 days and you’ll get an immediate refund, no questions asked - just a thank you for being willing to try it.
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Or Will Another Man Claim Your Seat?
There's simply no other training that could ever promise you the powers and confidence that you're going to get from How To Man.
After How To Man you'll have the confidence and self trust to create the life you want, filled with purpose, freedom, financial ease, and love.
It doesn't matter if you're still uncertain of who you are, if you struggle to have women take you seriously as a man, or you feel weak or afraid right now (Nathan and I both started exactly in that place)...
How To Man will give you the proven roadmap to become the man that can handle ANY situation that life throws at you with masculine confidence.
And you will also become a part of our private community -- joining a brotherhood of lifelong friends that will support you on your new path of confidence and freedom.
We're committed to you taking this chance on yourself:
Even if you don't believe yet that this program can deliver, if you try it out and don’t agree that How To Man fulfills every promise on this page and more, just shoot me an email and you'll get every penny back.
Our friend Joe Polish likes to say that, "Confidence feels great; courage doesn't... But if you act with courage often enough, you'll become confident."
That’s it. You’re either ready or you’re not.
Alex & Nathan
[..] Alex and Nathan have created and we are expanding in our brotherhood of MAN. Thank you both for creating this, it was transformational. - JohnI came wanting to fully understand what it means to be a man, so that I can fully become one for myself, the woman/women in my life, my friends, and my family. What I learned is that I am the only one stopping myself from fully stepping into my potential as a man. In addition, I learned how to communicate fully and give my attention fully to what I choose.
Here's my radical honesty: At the end of the seminar I was excited to begin a new kind of life. I now had the tools and insight to do the changes I want in my life. I wrote my commitments and was good to go. Or so I thought. Days went by and I didn't do anything, just surfed the wave of FEELING the seminar gave me. [...] So yesterday I found this epic rusty sledgehammer and started to pound that sucker i.e. sat my ass down and started doing a consideration. I don't think the consideration is "finished" yet, as it needs some experimenting. But I will say this: just by sitting down and starting the process I can feel a little shift in my body. Can't put my words on it just yet, but I can tell you it's positive.
Thanks for the inspiration! I am very grateful for this brotherhood.
Each day is a small victory for me as I'm making progress to be the social. upbeat, friendly, and outgoing MAN. Todays victory was deciding to lounge with my coworkers during lunch instead of by myself. I remembered that we just have to get over our fear wall or let go of the branch and see that nothing was ever really stopping us but the fear. I felt calm and relaxed as I engaged someone new and completely understood that whether the conversation went good or bad I would be 100% fine. There were a couple awkward moments of course I'm rusty but I did not let them become moments of insecurity. The fear was gone. I am happy.
Thank you for sharing Nathan. You have helped so many by leading by example. It is truly helpful on many levels. You are a great man.
- Alex M.
Thank you Nathan Charles! You have shown me the way! Your a great man and we all support you! Congratulations on your break through! You're a strong man!
Nathan Charles and Alex Allman are both experts at what they do and that includes public speaking. I really enjoyed watching all the speakers because of the power from their speeches and that's something I want to convey as well. It was incredibly cool!
I CAME TO: Cut through the dense toxic fog in my brain
Get crystalline clarity and deep insight into my purpose and passion
To rid myself of guilt, shame, remorse, and a general overwhelming feeling of powerlessness
To define and step in my manhood
To create my vision of my world
I GOT: Deep insight and personal transformation that as a man:
I will fail - it is ok
I can be uncertain - it is ok
I am ok, just get up, stay in the game, and keep moving
Being courageous doesn't mean perfect and I already knew my purpose and passion I just need to do it
I feel free now to do it.
Just did the exercise, incredible. thanks so much Nathan Charles!
I came wanting to get core confidence in my life. I got the insight of that I already have what it takes to have the confidence I so sought after, I just need to pick it up. I also got the insight that it's okay to be uncertain.
I came wanting to get tools to break past my fear and uncertainty of engaging with new people. I gained enlightenment that I am not acknowledging my emotions and am often actively suppressing them.
I came wanting to fully understand what it means to be a man, so that I can fully become one for myself, the woman/women in my life, my friends, and my family. What I learned is that I am the only one stopping myself from fully stepping into my potential as a man. In addition, I learned how to communicate fully and give my attention fully to what I choose
I came wanting to find clarity in relating to women on a deep level as well as finding my purpose and direction in life.I got a revelation in the value of spending my attention, and learning that I have brothers in every man if only I want that and give my attention towards it.
Thanks Nathan & Alex (and indeed all the guest speakers), for a truly profound weekend workshop. I cannot express my gratitude enough.
I came to: Find a better understanding of masculinity in every shape. Be more authentic by hearing from somebody that is more authentic than me.
I got: Brotherhood of men.
Calmed, deliberated, and pleased.
The sufficient model.
My most valuable resource is my attention.
Quality question. (Amazing)
When Nathan Charles was going through a PowerPoint on emotion, he caught my attention. He proceeded to tell us that we are not to be overwhelmed by others emotions, it's not our responsibility and the stigma that men are not allowed to show emotion is BULLSHIT..... When he said this, a lightning rod of emotion shot through my body and I felt a huge weight lifted off of my chest.
Guys, the conscious process technique has been amazing.
Thanks for sharing this with us, Nathan Charles. Reading about your experience led to a big insight for me. I realize I've been frozen and "playing dead" in many aspects of my life (relationship, career...). I never looked at this before from the perspective of the fight, flight or freeze response. And the metaphor of playing dead resonated especially strongly for me because, although I keep telling myself that my goal is to be "fully, passionately alive".
Thanks Alex, and Nathan. I have greatly appreciated your insights and reaching out the way you both have.
In the past month I now see how strong I can be. Overcoming fear is not all hard but it takes practice. I have hopes that my story will help you guys to be free and unashamed of yourself. Accept that you will fail, observe when you do, and make the conscious effort to fix what has gone wrong.
I occasionally hear Nathan's voice at times when I'm not present, saying "Men, increase the quality of your attention". This works immediately to bring my attention back to the present moment. (Note that this isn't the only thing that increases my quality of presence, just the most amusing thing) [...]Since HTM, I'm able to more easily let go of tension when it comes to other men by reminding myself that we're all part of a brotherhood (even if they don't know it yet), and that I have nothing to prove.
- Robert Y.
I came wanting to get permission and direction so that I could fully step into my manly life. I was too much of a wanderer without a strong foundation. I needed solidity and direction. I leaned that everything resided within me all along. Now I have the tools necessary to be myself fully in my interactions with life. There are many golden nuggets in this program that are life changing to me. I'm so grateful for it, and everyone involved! [...] I have a new found excitement for the direction I'm moving in life, and I commit to sticking with that direction and managing procrastination like we were taught to.
This stuff is AWESOME fun and soooo fucking cathartic. Even after just 3 considerations I feel like I'm wiping away layer after layer of bullshit. It just seems to work, effortlessly. Thank you so much for sharing this process Alex Allman and Nathan Charles!
I went through many layers of anger, then sadness, my realization was that I was mourning my childhood, my marriages, my life up to now, I was a raw exposed nerve feeling everything. This was something I wasn't used to, but I felt alive. More alive than I have felt in a long time. Oddly I cried more with joy than with sadness, then peace.
I'm already becoming the things I always thought I had to work to become simply by yielding my attention. I REALLY like who I'm becoming or rather, am allowing myself to be. Maybe this is because I'm acting intuitively rather than based on my social personality. Regardless, it's awesome but kinda scary.
This is epic! Alex Allman it changed my life around
I appreciate the quality of posts and support in this group. Want to say hi instead of just lurk. [...] you guys are awesome and I want to do whatever is in my power to share the same thoughtfulness and support you guys are showing here.